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Munich: The Culture of Memory

September 27, 2014
New York City - JFK Airport

The carry-on’s clutch shook as he clenched the handle’s grip, impatience fueling frustration. “This line,” he muttered, a mopped shag twisting to the exasperated shake of his head. 

The man leaned over, surveying the curved JFK security line in front. Passengers and baggage snaked long ahead from where he stood, I watching from behind. The line mandated commitment. Commitment spiked with a generous pinch of patience.

In the security line of an international airport, worlds so easily collide despite check in signs for countries where cultures divide. But here in the queue itself, we’re all one and the same. A parade of ants trudging forward: the gift of speed handed over for the power of patience.


“Passport,” the gruffness of the officer’s tone connoted one of a man rooted in his seat far longer than the hour I’d stood waiting. The officer nodded sharply, maneuvering me robotically along the motions of the stringent U.S. airport process. My orange case-- the same that's followed my travels from Thailand onward-- slid through the mouth of the security reel.  I tugged the clutch upward and suitcase forward.

50 minutes left until takeoff.


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September 28- October 2, 2014
Munich, Germany

Marienplatz, Munich's central plaza

It's always the trees, scattered like seeds across a cityscape that I notice first. And then the cars, how toy like they seem, moving but a hairline along weaved strips of roadway below. The minutiae of daily life among the history and culture embedded within a city plays no role in that initial observation. It’s a carte blanche of sorts as the plane submits to gravity, diving onto the smooth stretch of the Munich runway. 

My jet lag would cloak over by 8 p.m., hours after Kayli, one of my oldest camp friends, had picked me up at the airport. She guided us onto Munich’s S-bahn commuter train and on toward Feldafing, where Kayli lived with the family whom she au paired for.

By 9 p.m., we met up with Kayli’s friends at Oktoberfest, the ambience thick with the thrill of the festival’s miles long stretch of rides and tents, vomit-strewn floors, women in dirndls and men in lederhosens. 

There must have been thousands crowded inside the beer halls, bodies loose with energy as we joined in, stepping up onto a picnic tabletop. The live band energized the night, positioned in the center of the hall amid ribbons and frills adorning the interior from the top down.

I’d learn on a Munich walking tour that some 70,000 visitors flock to Oktoberfest over the course of the weeklong celebration. Picture it as the Mardi Gras of Germany’s south. The celebration feeds the culture of the city where-- be you a local or visitor-- the beer glass transcends country lines: international appreciation for the Bavarian national pastime.

The craze of an Oktoberfest beer hall.
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"Germany?" my grandparents emailed back, a response charged with the familiar tone of those who grew up in the shadows of the Second World War. My grandfather lived in London, my grandmother evacuated to Wales. Their World War II stories are ones of sirens sounded and shelters sought during the German bombing blitz of the early 1940s. For my grandparents, Germany was a threat to their country, not just to the Jewish people. 

My grandfather visited Germany in 1952 as a student, returning with my grandmother in the 60s to explore, as they explain, "new Germany." Yet among the majority of Jewish grandparents, the reluctance to visit and resistance to purchase German goods remains strong. The history, after all, is personal, the scars lasting. It's our generation-- three generations since-- that is among the first to shake the reservation, removed enough so not to let Germany’s past bar us from exploring the country it’s progressed to today.

The pitter-patter of rain slows as the S-bahn approaches Stranburg, the serene stretch of a translucent lake coming into view. Contours of the dewy mountainous distance add only slight gradation to the gray-blue scheme. From here, we're about 40 minutes to Marienplatz, Munich’s main square bearing the city’s central landmarks.

My decision to visit Germany had not developed at random, as my travels never, however last minute planning, are. It was three years ago in Paris that I’d befriended Natalia and Sergej, two Germans who, despite not being Jewish, joined me my last evening in Paris for Shabbat at Chabad.

New Town Hall in Marienplatz
My Shabbats at the Champs Elysees Chabad shaped so much of the experience I took away from those six months in Paris. The people I met, the friends I made—you never know how parts of your life trickle through as the years unfold. I used to always take visitors I’d meet to Trocadero after Shabbat. It's Paris’s best view to watch the Eiffel Tower’s light show, on the hour every hour once the veil of night cloaks the city.

That last evening Natalia and Sergej gave me the company I'd offered so many others-- as we raced from Shabbat dinner to Trocadero, the two of them sitting through the blur of my tears as the flicker of the tower’s dancing bulbs twisted my torn heart. 

It seems so small in retrospect, but Natalia and Sergej’s selflessness served one of the early catalysts that would set me in motion to consider Germans today away from my preconceptions defined from a war seven decades ago.

Choosing to visit Germany challenged me to consider a world that has made steps toward accepting, with structure in place to never forget. No one asks us to forgive. But we can choose to push aside and enter proud—proud of the Jewish heritage that persists today decades since any plan to once rid it from existence.  

The lake at Stranburg. From here, it's about 40 minutes to Munich's city center.

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I spent my first two days in Munich exploring the travel book’s recommendations: stifling the giggles as I assessed a scene of sunbathing nude elders at the Englischer Garten; delving into World War I history at the Jewish Museum; and paying respects to Olympia Stadion’s memorial to the Israeli athletes kidnapped and killed by Palestinian terrorists.

Day one, however, began as I love to start first days in any new city:

Simply, walking around.


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When in Europe, fashion flare over utilitarian comfort holds. Until your back gives out, and your shoulders hurt and holes form under your shoes. And whatever notion of looking semi a-la-mode in white flats with gold tips so quickly dissipates in lieu of the tourist in sneakers appeal.

Our group’s footsteps slowed as we—a group of 23 on a three-hour walking tour— approached the alleyway. I peered down, trailing the scaled rings curved around a thick weave of golden stones. The beveled pavement felt smooth under the soles of my worn flats. 

Germans, our guide explained, would sneak down this very path in World War II's early days to avoid saluting the SS stop around the corner. But as SS officers caught wind of the cut through, they shifted their efforts to patrol of the passageway. Those with neither adequate reason to enter nor proof of identity were publicly beaten or shot.

“These golden steps here honor the courage of those Nazi resistors," our guide said. He was a husky man, his blue rugged jeans sagging clumsily over beaten sneakers. “Think of life under Nazi rule. Of the Germans with a family to support, children to raise, a life to protect," he urged. "Were you guilty if you didn’t resist the Nazis?"

My gaze traced the golden design, spokes of moss spotting ridges between stones.  I’m quick to consider the Jewish plight under Nazi rule. But how often do I remember those who risked their lives to protect others from threat? The culture of memory pervades the very essence of how we understand history, framing the heroes and villains within. But what-- or better yet, who-- defines the one who did wrong? Were you guilty if you didn’t defy Nazi oppression? 

It's hard to imagine Munich once patrolled by Nazi officers, of swastikas blazed onto blood red flags draping building exteriors. What did it mean to be guilty? And what relevance does it hold, seventy years later? 

There’s no simple answer, in the way the Holocaust is not a black and white story. Yet, no one asks us to forgive, and no one mandates that we answer. The scars of Germany’s past undoubtedly shape the framework of the country’s character, an ever reminder of the evil of man unto the framework of society. But the brutality of their Nazi history, the persecution of Jews before, and the country’s split following is not a story Germans shy away from.  And so we can choose to push aside-- to bear to witness the memory of the Holocaust's victims, and take a moment to consider the courage of those who resisted Nazi rule.

"Were you guilty?" our guide repeated, eyeing us carefully. "And if so, how guilty?" He sighed deeply, the breath compressing into his chest. 

My gaze swept along the curved design, the golden color contrasting beautifully against the rich purple of the paved walkway. It’s the golden lining of a lesson for us all—of our potential to meet valor and courage, bravery and perseverance in the face of cruelty and horror.  

I didn't come to an answer that morning, and haven't in the weeks since. For perhaps seventy years after a war that scarred and shaped Germany as it stands today, perhaps it's ok not to have an answer.

S-bahn stop at Feldafing, where Kayli lived and I stayed.
Photo taken in the early hours of the morning, as I took the train to the airport-- leaving Munich and en route to Berlin.

Stories from Bangkok: The Introduction



May 22-25
Drizzled rain sprinkles the city, cooling the humidity of the afternoon heat as the evening settles in. But we're dry, seated in a fuscia pink cab, maneuvering through the stalled traffic of Bangkok. A thumping beat grows louder as our taxi pulls in to a side stretch of the long road to our left. “Walk down,” the driver says, his arm extended, motioning down toward the street.  “You’ll see hotel.”

Khao San Road: Bangkok's backpacker hub
Caitlan and I take our first step onto the streets of Bangkok, staring ahead at a road alive with a pulse drawing from the movement and urgency within.

Travelers lugging backpacks pace through the strip, passing merchants spilling onto the road’s either side. Peddlers weave through pedestrians, carrying platters of black, scaled bugs on long, wooden sticks. Vendors sell food, leaning on carts of pad thai and smoothies, non-refrigerated meat and Thai-style crepes. Neon signs hang overhead, beckoning those into tattoo parlors and massage shops, restaurants and hotels. And the American music-- vibrating from rooftop bars and floor level restaurants as customer sit on the plastic seats in front, soaking in the life of Khao San Road.

With confidence powering the jet leg of our 21-hours of travel, we step forward, entering the heart of Bangkok’s backpacker hub and our home base for our first four days in Thailand.

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Bangkok runs on a bring your own toilet paper system-- and, for the germaphobe abroad, a carry your personal surefire stash of always filled Purell. Public bathrooms usually cost 2 baht (7 cents), though it seems the more you pay, the less you get. The stalls reek and the floors are strewn with urine and dirt. All of which complement the hole in the ground or just barely a seat labeled as toilet for use. Toilet paper is an extra price should the bathroom fee collector-- seated comfortably at the bathroom front-- provide it. Which is why I’ve started packing a toilet paper bag, a mixture of hotel tissues and restaurant napkins.

Clever thinking.

The city is the sharpest blend of tradition meets modernity: the Buddhist shrines and temples of the Old City juxtaposed by the extensive skyscrapers of Bangkok’s downtown.


We spent late morning to early evening of our first day touring the Old City's Grand Palace complex-- a widespread ground of jeweled temples. The colors are stunning: greens and reds, whites and golds of the painted decor within the temples and shined stones of the exterior jewels. A 15 mile high and 43 mile long, golden reclining Buddha lies inside Wat Pho, the temple adjacent to the Grand Palace. I imagine the spiritual connection a Buddhist experiences while visiting the grounds must be powerful-- the splendor of architecture and intricacy of design adding to the grandeur of it all.
Instagram shots given I can't upload my SLR pictures. Above and below: The Grand Palace.

For your viewing pleasure. 
Thais are largely Buddhist and monks are commonplace in a society that places heavy value on their reverence. Monks wear the traditional orange garb, their heads shaven clean-- a symbol for having stripped down to the fundamentals of life's basic needs. But you'll see them with an SLR camera and using a cell phone-- necessities exempt from the monk list of unacceptable life luxuries. Caitlan and I had gone to the train station Friday morning to purchase a Sunday day ticket from Bangkok to Ayutthaya (Thailand’s historic capital city) and an overnight ride to Chiang Mai (a city in the north). There's a sign in the train station reserving an area for monks-- right across from a Dunkin Donuts and just in front of a golden, Buddha sculpture.

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Thais are calm by nature and, from our experience, more than willing to help. We don't hesitate to ask for directions; They'll point in the direction if they understand and find someone who knows English if they don't. Cab drivers don’t always have cash for larger bills; We had a driver step out from the car, flagging down others to see if they had change for our 500 baht ($16) note.

We stick out as the few white faces among a largely Asian crowd; As two, female travelers in a country in which we don’t speak the tongue, we can’t be sure we haven't been taken advantage of, nor been ripped off. But we haven’t felt unsafe, nor ostracized by way of being different.


Caitlan and I enjoyed our first Thai massage our first afternoon, a 30-minute body rub in Wat Pho's Thai massage school. It took me a few minutes to adjust to having a Thai masseuse sitting on top of me, contorting my body as she dug her coarse fingers into knots I had no idea parts of my body could possibly develop. We went for a massage Friday night as well, seeing as the prices make it appealing-- between $4 and $7 for a 30 to 60 minute massage. I asked my masseuse how she soothes whatever hand pain massage giving causes the massage giver. But she smiled, for the question was past her English comprehension. And so I resorted to the thumbs up sign and smile, a universal thank you (or so I hope) for a job well done.
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Travel book bible says that a flat rate, taxi fare is an automatic rip off. I initially attempted bartering the price down, asking for 40 baht before the driver would shake his head, rolling back up the window and rejecting our offer. It was Friday evening on our way to Chabad, Shabbat dinner that tables turned as we entered the taxi, I showing the driver my phone with the address written into my notes. “Meter," I asked, firm in my request.

And like that, he nodded his head.

It’s the little things we learn each day. You're not to accept a tuk-tuk (a bicycle taxi) from a driver that offers a 10 baht ride, for he’ll whisk you away to an illegal, underground gem business (so says travel book bible), forcing you to purchase his fake jewels. You barter your way down in markets, you carry a bag of toilet paper, you stir clear of insects on a stick and you don’t buy a converter. For Thai sockets take European and American plugs.

And, as learned one afternoon, you're to be hesitant of the young, male cab driver who speaks English and asks after your whereabouts.

"America is 2 million baht,” the afternoon's driver had commented. He looked into the rearview mirror, locking eyes as he smiled. “I have no money." He was dark-skinned, his hair just above shoulder length, oily from the heat of the day. He wore Ray Band sunglasses, thick dark frames shading his eyes from view.

The Oriental Hotel lobby

“Your English is good,” I commented. He teaches himself: books and music, customers and conversation. He told us he had come to Bangkok to work, moving away from his family of farmers in the northeast of the country.

He rarely sees them, he commented. "And I have no girlfriend." His friend the taxi driver had met a British girl in a cab, marrying her and moving to England. He had money, our driver added stoutly.

Clearly the be all to future happiness. Complements of the taxi driver's wise words.

Which is when I realized I had dug ourselves into a hole that neither Caitlan nor I needed to be; Whatever his intentions were, our driver with no girlfriend nor money had full control as to where he wanted to take us. My nerves surfaced as we passed gem stores—the paragraph in my travel book of tuk-tuk drivers and gem store scams pouring into the forefront of my mind.

And so the made-up stories streamed out as we answered his questions: Yes, we were on a school trip, staying in Bangkok for 5 days, leaving tomorrow and definitely not staying in a hotel. “Boyfriends?” he asked.

"Married!" we threw out, my fit of giggles reaching their peak as he pulled into the valet of the Oriental Hotel, a famed, five-star luxury hotel known as as top destination for celebrity visits.

“Friend on Facebook,” our driver said eagerly, handing back his business card.

And clad in gym clothes—Caitlan more socially acceptable in a skirt and tank top—the two of us walked through the automatic doors of the breathtaking hotel, letting go a deep breath of relief for we had made it past the gem shops and to our desired destination: an afternoon break in the gardens and lobby of the historic hotel.


Next time, perhaps a bit more caution.


It's the little things we pick up on each day. That’s the fun of this. Each day brings a surprise, a takeway lesson and accompanying story. The important thing is that we're safe-- though at the same time, taking advantage of the excitement each new adventure, every new opportunity can and will provide.

Street food along Khao San Road

Searching for definition



View from the Cliveden House- location for my grandfather's 80th birthday celebration.
London. Nov. 29- Dec. 3
The five of us squeeze into the back of the car as the cab winds toward our Regent Street hotel, the darkened winter sky cooling the early evening.

My dad chats with the driver, commenting on the winter fair set up in Hyde Park—“a whole lot of money for a whole lot of nothing,” the cabbie said.

“It’s up every year?”

"Of course not," the driver responded. “You’re not from here?” he asked, confused by my father’s accent and taken aback after my dad’s response that the family now lives in Florida.

“I love Florida,” he replied. “How long since you left London?"

“17 years,” my father answered.

“Eh,” the cab driver said, drawing out his answer, a slight twang to his British intonation. “You’re American now, ain’t you?”
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The blue shoes are still snug in their plastic bag, a musty smell from the months stored away in the UPS box. I had bought a replacement pair prior to leaving for Paris in January, but those too had broken while abroad. There’s a holey trend to the shoes; apparently none are meant for walking.

I returned from Paris early August with two weeks in Florida before heading back up to Washington—a semester to tackle among job and internship responsibilities to balance. I'd laid my life abroad to rest, never expecting I'd return across the Atlantic so soon after six months of life abroad. But the call had come about a month ago, the telephone ring having replaced my morning alarm-- my parents asking if I’d be interested in a four-day trip to London for my grandfather’s 80th birthday.

Any chance to travel, really. Might as well just buy me the ticket and tell me to pencil in the dates into my calendar.

Which is when it came to me; why not extend the trip. A side trip to Paris? I asked.


Sure, my parents answered. But that, ma cherie, would be out of your own pocket.
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I love travel—the rush of lives across the globe, the challenge of observing without judging, accepting the differences in culture among the similarities within the daily pace of lives around the world.

I met William, my 19-year-old brother, at customs in the Heathrow airport. We had arrived 30 minutes of each other so as to take the train into central London together, flagging a cab at Paddington to get to our hotel.

We haven't gone to London as a family since getting our Green Cards twelve years ago. I’ve been back on my own since, having spent my sophomore year spring break at my grandparents’ central London home, tackling the city through tourist goggles.

I had used the trip as a means to discover my place within the city, leaving with a stronger understanding of my British heritage yet still feeling American, above all else.

I visited London this past summer for a few days during the Queen’s Jubilee. The national pride ran rampant throughout the country, my grandparent’s having draped their front window with two Union Jacks bearing the Queen’s face.

It’s strange to have ties to a place nowhere near the environment you grew up in, yet an understanding it’s a part of your definition. It was through my summer and spring break trip that, for the first time, I faced my own challenge of understanding where my British nationality fits within my own identity. 
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My grandfather, on the left. 
The celebration for my grandfather’s 80th spanned the course of three days: Friday night, Shabbat dinner at my grandparent’s home; Saturday morning services and Kiddush at synagogue; and Sunday afternoon’s luncheon at the Cliveden House, a historic home just 45 minutes outside of London.

We began the afternoon with drinks in the library, moving into a separate room for the meal. My mother, uncle and former ambassador gave speeches—honoring the man who had inspired so many in his service to the country as a British diplomat to Paris, as a grandfather, father, friend and husband.
  
My grandfather's speech was last, using snippets of memories from his 80 years to emphasize the value of leading a fulfilling, promising and enriching life.


I can’t completely put to words how incredible it was to celebrate such an honor as a family. Perhaps it’s because I didn’t grow up surrounded by family outside that of my parents and brothers. But to sit at a table with my aunt, uncle and cousins, to watch my mother and uncle speak such warm words of my grandfather and to see my grandparents surrounded by some of their oldest friends- it truly was special. 

On the other side of the Atlantic, there’s a connection that binds my family, the strongest reminder of the British roots that tie to a part of my definition.

I've come far in my own discovery process over the past three years, and it with this trip back to London as a family that I had the opportunity to apply what I’ve learned into where it all began.

The birthday boy!
Identity is a tricky term, yet it’s one I believe is structured by the connections we develop within our context. I’ve realized I won't ever have a set answer as to who I am. But in the search, I come away with a stronger grasp as to what of my roots build to create who I am today.


This trip back was the most British I’ve ever felt, watching how at home my parents seemed within the environment they grew up in. My parents pinpointed landmarks during our drive home from the luncheon—a countryside, quaint restaurant in which my mother’s family had eaten an egg brunch; the King David room, “where all the young Jews get married,” my dad said—my parents included. 

It's comforting knowing that at a point, my parents too had to redefine their place as they created a new life in America. There's a sense of a nomad existence to their living: to not really being an American, yet having lived in the states for such an extended time to warrant the title. The trick: to not merge the worlds, my mother said. Context shapes behavior, frames connections. Her American life relates little to the norms she applies to that of her British roots.

Life isn’t a single definition, but rather a series of defining moments that we build and continually renew over the course of our lives. For now, the hardest part is not seeing ahead. My friends and I are at a crossroads in our lives—graduating school in a semester, the blur of the future hazing the comfort as to where we go next.

We develop an identity in order to understand our role within today’s framework. But with tomorrow’s changes, it's for us to reevaluate where we stand. And in doing so, identity and and definition adjusts.

It’s not about letting go. Nor is it about a new replacing the old. It’s about building, constant acceptance of the experiences that shape how we approach what lies ahead.

I bid my parents farewell Sunday evening given I’d catch an early train to Paris the following Monday morning, my father headed to Switzerland, William headed to New York and my mother and Adam back to Florida.

My grandparents would stay in London, my grandmother under strict medical orders to put the travel to rest until her health betters.

But they too will be back off.

We’re a unique family, I’ve decided. Jet setting the world in search of our place within it.

Though maybe if we stayed in one place, we wouldn’t have the challenge.

But then again, life wouldn’t be as exciting.
The family

 

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